It feels like ages since I last posted a blog entry. School has ended and I now got heaps of time to do other stuff thus the blog post. Haha! I was thinking of what to write for my comeback (haha, joke) and while I was scrolling and scrolling and scrolling... you get the point. Scrolling through my Facebook page, it seems like everyone that I know has struggled with relationships and love in particular when they left home. I'm no love expert so before you continue on reading this, promise yourself that you won't judge me for what I am about to write. Haha!
The truth is, this is still my blog and you can't do anything about it but read. Hihi. Okay, so where were we? Right. Relationships. I'm going to sum up 3 of things that I learned from my own experience and from other people's experience in the past year that I've lived outside the comfort of home.
First thing's first. Long distance relationship, just DOESN'T work. Dun dun dun.
(I know, I know, you disagree with me on this but trust me I used to be on your side too.)
It's surprising how this line just came out from me. I used to, I hoped, I believed and I even "campaigned" on the ability of such relationship to work but after a year, I just realised that it just doesn't work. But here's the thing. It doesn't work because as human as we are we begin to doubt our partner, we lose our trust, we bring up some things in the past and we miss to communicate. We begin to get tired, we begin to get weary, we begin to seek attention from others and we begin to give each other too much time for our own wants when aside from just you, a thing called "us" exists. Just a piece of unsolicited advice, if you can't stay faithful and if you can't learn to trust each other between the roads, the bridges, and the airports that's in the middle of the both of you, then please do yourself a favour and leave?
There is such thing as "Friendly Date". Haha!
If my flatmates were to read this, they'd definitely disagree with me on this one. Do you believe in such thing though? I do. Haha! People, yes I mean you and me, easily judge others whenever they see a guy and a girl walk down the streets together. It's not like they're already dating or anythiiiing.(Defensive? Haha!) No friendly date is bad bad unless it's bad. Wait. Say what? All friendly dates are not bad but it becomes bad when one or both parties get to hurt another party. What I'm trying to say is, when you're committed, stop. The more frequent you spend time with that person, the more chances of winning! Joke. Haha! The more chances of you guys falling for each other without you even knowing it. If you're a girl and you're reading this and this guy asks you out to spend time with him and do stuffs together, go but NEVER assume that he already likes you unless he openly says something about it cuz when you're abroad, some people are just bored and you might be too. Oh and one more thing, (cue Jose Marie Chan) Please be careful withhhhhhh... Your heart. Haha!
Tinder is a Yes-No kinda thing.
I say 100% NO to Tinder but it worked for some! I've had friends who tried their luck and somewhere somehow it kinda worked for them. So good on ya mate! Haha! Well, being abroad has opened my eyes on a lot of things and even if I still disagree and I still don't believe in online romances, (I just think it's so boring to try to make a conversation with someone you just virtually met), some people find their destiny there. Most people are in it for the other stuff but for some, it will mean their forever. (If such forever exists. Haha!) So before you click on that download button, think twice or maybe 77x7. Haha!
Tinder is a Yes-No kinda thing.
I say 100% NO to Tinder but it worked for some! I've had friends who tried their luck and somewhere somehow it kinda worked for them. So good on ya mate! Haha! Well, being abroad has opened my eyes on a lot of things and even if I still disagree and I still don't believe in online romances, (I just think it's so boring to try to make a conversation with someone you just virtually met), some people find their destiny there. Most people are in it for the other stuff but for some, it will mean their forever. (If such forever exists. Haha!) So before you click on that download button, think twice or maybe 77x7. Haha!
*****Open your heart to love.*****
This last one, which is not part of the three anymore, is basically just for singles only. You might have had a rough experience or you might not have any experience at all but maybe it's time. Time to just let people into your life and actually live. You can get used to being alone but it doesn't mean that you try to shut people down. Take it from me. I do it all the time. Haha! It's just hard to trust again you know. But come to think of it, why do you limit yourself to something that may be greater and all you have to do is to trust again. A friend recently told me that I detach myself so easily from others. That kinda woke me up a bit but it's a process for me but to you who's reading this and you're just as scared as I am, remind yourself to be strong enough to love again or to just begin to love.
Always remember, We love because HE first loved us. Right Lord? :)
Enough of being sentimental. Whew! That last one was a bit heartfelt ey? Haha! Anyways, if you have comments and violent reactions please feel free to write it down below. :)
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